STORY BEHIND THE SONG  This song I wrote during the pandemic, but also it started from an idea inspired by a family member who suffers from self-doubt and poor decision making.  This family member has always doubted herself and self-sabotaged her life.   Depression clinical runs rampant throughout southeastern Iowa where I am from.  I have been in relationships with women who suffer from it, and i have friends men and women who suffer from self-doubt and getting down on themselves.  Some of those folks have lost their bought with the depression, and chosen to end their life, or sabotage their life in some way that is permanent.  With the lock-downs of the pandemic, and the safety precautions and the isolation I was really thinking about family members and friends who suffer form this.  I also can relate to this in my own life with so many people through their actions who tried to get me to doubt myself, or planted seeds that I latched onto.  But I have learned that we make our own destiny and we have to stop listening to experts, critics, and naysayers, even if we love them even if they are "smarter" than us.  Because at the end of the day we make our own life, and we only have one to live.  I can remember being in relationships an addict and the gas-lighting that happened during that relationship that got me thinking I was crazy and losing my mind.  The manipulation I see that happens with our news media, and in my professional life at times, its all interconnected withing our own minds, and what we have to do is be ourselves,  I believe in this philosophy,  "DEFINE YOURSELF OR SOMEONE ELSE WILL"  This song is my hope that it inspires anyone with self-doubt to be their own best self, and not let others negatively influence their self-awareness.